Photo Credit: Whitney Majors
Photo Credit: Whitney Majors

You are going to want to read today’s post. 

We love getting messages from people who have stumbled upon The Adoption Project and desire to share their story. We welcome these stories wholeheartedly and want more than anything to share them so as to strengthen the adoption community, as well as to strengthen, inform and inspire others.

Recently, we received an email from a woman named Kristen. We think her story has been one to testify to many others before us of God’s Plan of Happiness for families. We hope it does so for you now. This is what she shared:

“I saw your website and wanted to share my story with you. My name is Kristen and I am a birth mom. I placed for adoption 11 years ago and have become an adoption advocate since then. Thank you for letting me share a piece of who I am.

When I was 19 I met my boyfriend. He was a 34 year old divorced dad who always lived life for the moment. Even though he wasn’t a member of the church that I had grown up with my whole life, I thought he was so happy and that maybe I could be too so I didn’t need to follow the church anymore. Before very long we were in love, living together, and having sex. As months progressed things between us got worse and worse. He would tell me he loved me but then act out in the most unloving ways and hundreds of times I felt a small voice telling me I needed to leave but thought surely that couldn’t be from the Holy Ghost because I didn’t deserve that gift the way I had been living, and brushed it aside. The day I found out I was pregnant he told me to get an abortion and get out. It was as if this was the Lords last attempt to get me far away from this situation as He could. I left unsure of what my future was going to hold but the Lord knew. 

Just weeks after I had found out I was pregnant I woke up in the middle of the night and thought I needed to read ‘The Family: A Proclamation to the World.’ Now I am certain that up to that point in my life I had never read that before, but the words that I had read gave so much peace that this was what Heavenly Father wanted for this little girl and that He would make sure that I was granted the same blessings one day if I followed this Plan. As hard as it was I kept to this Plan and placed her for adoption.

It was so important for me to see her grow up with this family that loves her and loves me. The letters, pictures, phone calls, visits, are such little things but they give me so much peace when I get that peak into the life that I love. Days when I miss her so much being able to revisit those memories always reassures me of the beautiful young women that she is given every opportunity to grow into with the support of all her family. On the flip side I also love that I am able to be there to answer her questions so she knows exactly why I made the decisions I made and that this was not a choice made easily without eternal love. Something that has always stuck with me was how her adoptive father described our relationship as sacred. Like all relationships this one isn’t always easy or without struggles but knowing that we can still have a relationship has helped me every step of the way. 

I decided early on that I wanted to make sure that I took this experience and grew from it. Life wasn’t about living for the moment any longer because I could finally see the bigger picture Heavenly Father had in store for us. I was given this strength I never had before and it showed me how resilient I really could be. I hope I have become a better daughter, sister, and friend as I saw the effect my choices had on the ones I loved and the grief they too had to deal with. Mostly I have changed by spend{ing} everyday making sure that I was becoming the woman that would make her proud of the choice I had made and that it was not made in vain. I may have given her life, but she has given me so much more.”